Constructive communication

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Abstract

Communication is a big part of project management. 80% of project managers' time is spent on communication, which is considered a critical success factor in projects ^[1]. Project managers communicate with stakeholders such as co-workers, clients, and business partners and these communications are, for example, regarding projects and for making big decisions. These types of communications and when dealing with all kinds of people, conflicts are inevitable ^[2].

For managing conflicts the right way, the communication has to be constructive and not destructive, as poor communication can make matters worse ^[3]. The majority of conflicts can be looked at as an opportunity for improvement ^[2]. Project managers that practice and learn to use constructive communication are more likely to transform conflicts into growth or improvement. In addition, they can build more robust and better relationships with their stakeholders and understand them better. Moreover, by following the guidelines on constructive communication, project managers can resolve potential conflicts ahead of time and prevent miscommunication ^[3].

This article examines the importance of constructive communication, especially in dealing with conflicts during projects. In addition, relevant models and guidelines are provided that project managers can use in their work. It is important for project managers to master and keep practicing constructive communication. However, this type of communication is not just relevant within project management. It is useful for everyone willing to learn how to deal with conflicts constructively ^[4].

What is Constructive Communication

Constructive communication is a powerful tool to use when dealing with and to prevent conflicts. This type of communication addresses the conflict positively and clearly between communicators. It builds understanding, provides sufficient detail for full awareness, and provides clear information. Furthermore, by using constructive communication, the goal is that both sides win by showing a respectful and cooperative attitude. Using constructive communication leaves room for others to share their side and be heard to work together and foster understanding ^[4].

Models of Constructive Communication

There are different ways to use constructive communication. This section goes over five different models of constructive communication.

Nonviolent Communication

Clean Communication

Cooperative Communication

Centered Communication

Compassionate Listening

Guidelines for Constructive Communication

It can be tricky to use constructive communication when dealing with conflicts. In this section, guidelines and examples will be illustrated.

I-Statements Instead of You-Statements

Using I-statements when dealing with conflicts is much more subtle than you-statements. Project managers are not accusing and not making assumptions about the other person's attitude or feelings when using I-statements ^[2]. However, you-statements communicate that the other person is responsible for the project manager's discomfort and pain, which shuts the door to understanding and turns discussions into conflict. I-statements can identify both impacts and problems regarding the conflict and make it easier to find a solution ^[4].

• I-statement - Example of what to say:

- I find it frustrating when we send out the wrong file to our clients

• You-statement - Example of what not to say:

- You sent out the wrong file to our client

Message Form

Message Meaning

Limitations

There are always some limitations and they will be discussed in this section.

Conclusion

The final chapter is a conclusion.

Annotated bibliography

* Nonviolent and Constructive Communication, Joanie V Connors, 2013 ^[4]. This paper focuses on the skills of communication and how to use constructive communication when dealing with conflicts.

* Communicating Constructively, Scott Williams, 2002 ^[3]. This article shows how you can apply constructive communication in various professions.

References

1. ↑ J. Geraldi, C. Thuesen, \& J. Oehmen. (2017). Doing Projects - Nordic flavour to managing projects. Danish Standards Foundation. 96.
2. ↑ ^{2.0 2.1 2.2} A. Benko. (26.06.2018). Constructive Communication Skills in the Workplace. https://softwaretester.careers/constructive-communication-skills-in-the-workplace/. Visited: 09/02/2021.
3. ↑ ^{3.0 3.1 3.2} Scott Williams (NA). Communicating Constructively. http://www.wright.edu/~scott.williams/LeaderLetter/communicating.htm. Visited: 09/02/2021.
4. ↑ ^{4.0 4.1 4.2 4.3} Joanie V. Connors. (2018). Nonviolent and Constructive Communication. https://l.cohousing.org/Constructive_Communication.pdf. Visited: 09/02/2021.